Why is it so hard to deal what we called friendship blues? How will you handle a friend who seems to be in pain because he thought he's already an outcast to the group? What if you try to console him, explain to him, comfort him, you ended up hurting more his feelings coz he misinterpreted what you just said? You never intend to worsen the situation but it goes that way.
All I want is to settle the issue once and for all. I'm so sick of handling the issue again and again. Everything is a mess, all my plans didn't work. Sometimes I wish i haven't impose a goody goody image so that no person can go easy on me. hehehe!
Well, I think these are all I can do for them. And as for myself, I am beginning to learn the act of insensitivity. For those who know me well, would you mind answering my question. When I'm into a deep thought of the situation, I can't avoid to ask myself this: "Have I gone too far which worsen the issue?"
You just did what you thought was right. You've done your part, now let them grow on their own.
ReplyDeletehey chorvanescence, this will be the last time...remind me if someday i'll forget this promise...thanks
ReplyDeletemalalaki na tayo... im not perfect kasi minsan immature din ako. pero ung paulit ulit na, at nakakasawa na, please lang tigilan na naten. think like a 22-23 year old should. get over it... wag nyo lage guluhin mundo ni nelda
ReplyDeletewaaaah! nakakaiyak naman ang comment mo cuteyz...ehehe! thanks so much...
ReplyDeletenaku nelda, d ko man naiintindihan ang sinasabi mo, nauunawaan naman kita.
ReplyDeletei have seen you many times, staring at your laptop monitor, typing on the keyboards so fast like your fingers have their own mind - knowing which keys to press one after another, once or twice tears would fall, you're too serious with whoever on the other end of that YM conversation that you have, so engulf with the emotion flowing inside you, unmindful of your surrounding and the people who could have been wondering what's going on with you.
you have been too involved with the situation, that is because you act what a friend should do. you tried to reached them, or him, because you feel it is what is asked of you. as a person, as a friend, you acted responsibly, easing the pain of a hurt person, comforting his grief. but remember that people who are in such state are either blind or deaf or even both that they've been impaired to perform right reasoning. it's not that he couldn't but wouldn't see the goodness you're trying to impart on him, and result to more misunderstanding.
this is very normal to high schooler. i don't think this should be the case when one have grown, specially, one who is out of college and now is working. for the sake of life, you have yours to live with. you know very well you have your own problems, worries and issues to handle and resolve. it is not like before that life could go on with families, schools and friends. your horizons has broaden. and so is his. he must learn to deal with it his way and on his own.
sometimes you just have to release his hand, and let him go. so he would grow and learn. it is perhaps that he is over reacting to all of this because you're giving the attention that he so wanted. that outcast thing is just a call for attention. it is not suppose to be a big issue or become a big thing. once told he is not an outcast should be enough. now it's his turn to do his part to rekindle the atmosphere of friendship with the whole group. he's the one to reach out with the group, not the other way around. and if the group or you is reaching for him, he must then open his arms and accept it without doubt that it is true friendship being offered.
i believe you have done your part, and there's nothing else you could do for him, unless he help himself and realize what he is missing. he is missing life per se.
ay ang haba na pala neto :D
that's a good one ruby! thanks for the follow-up! =)
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ReplyDeletegrabeycious mama rubz! your comment is longer than my post. hahaha! thanks so much...hehehe! lagi mo pala ako nahuhuling nakikipag-away sa computer...
ReplyDeleteI agreed on what you say that such people is either blind or deaf but how could he realizes his mistakes if noone won't tell it to him?
wow cuteyz! close na kau ni ruby..hehehe!
ReplyDeleterhyz are you being sarcastic on your comment >> "well, i admit, minsan tlga nagiging immature ako.. eneweiz, lagi nmn akong nde nakakaintindi.. so wats the use of explaining"
ReplyDeleteor are you really pertaining to yourself? just confused...hehe! you know what i mean coz i've read those lines from him
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ReplyDeletewow tinitira pala ako at pinag-uusapan ako...nahiya pa kaung ilagay pangalan ko...grabe...sobrang sarcastic kau...o ayan nelda superhero ka na...masaya ka na???
ReplyDeleterhyz..hanep sa mga comments ah...sarili nyo na naman nakita nyo...sarcastic...
cuteyz...siguro nga lets act like 22-23...e di wag nyo ko sa blog tirahin at pag-usapan...
hahaha..pathetic...
anong kaguluhan to? hehehe parang tgis or gimmik ha. anyway normal lang yan neldz. nangyayari at nangyayari talaga yan. agree ako kay mommy ruby. you've done your part.
ReplyDeletepeace y'all!
hahaha! nakahabol ka pa...yeah kinda friendship blues nga...salamat rye
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